Narcissistic Abuse: Parenting Do’s and Don’ts


In the first of a series of interviews, Mandy Friedman and Michelle Minette, mental health professionals specializing in working with survivors of narcissistic abuse, discuss the basics of parenting with a high-conflict ex after leaving narcissistic abuse.

Parenting is difficult enough when both parents are in a healthy, committed relationship or when co-parenting cooperatively after divorce. Trying to parent with someone committed to misunderstanding, vilifying, and continuing to abuse you is near impossible, especially when your focus is to nurture and protect your child(ren). Following these tips will help you create a foundation for protecting yourself and your child(ren) from continued narcissistic abuse.

Do’s:

  1. Maintain consistently firm boundaries
  2. Strictly follow the parenting plan
  3. Make what you want their idea
  4. Allow them to rescue/help you

Don’ts:

  1. Don’t respond to everything they say or text
  2. Don’t give them access to you
  3. Don’t assume others will understand or see what you are going through
  4. Don’t forget who they are

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Disclaimer: This content is intended for educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for mental health treatment. It is important for survivors of abuse to find mental health professionals who understand trauma and abusive relationships. Please seek support from trusted and trained practitioners. This content is not meant to be used by anyone as diagnostic criteria. Permissions have not been granted for anyone to utilize this material as a source to make allegations about specific individuals. Any online content produced by Michelle Minette and F! All That Wellness Coaching is an educational discussion about narcissism which is a descriptive term for tendencies and behavioral patterns. Individuals with narcissistic features or tendencies do not necessarily meet DSM-5 diagnostic criteria. The terms narcissistic and narcissism are used as descriptions of tendencies and behaviors and are not meant as clinical terms.